Thursday, July 13, 2006
TRB and other goodies....
Hi again, everyone :)After a long and much needed hiatus, I thought I'd check in and catch up a little with you all. I hope everyone is getting by okay :). The past couple of months have been chaotic to say the least, from being summoned to court by TRB (the ratbastard), for- Yes, you're reading this correctly- FULL custody of MY boys!!!! There have been a series of sit down meetings leading up to last weeks court date. TRB claimed the boys had asked him if they could live with him. Actually P had, after a particularly heated discussion about why he could not attend a party at his 16 year old cousin's house where there were no parents (TRB's family, of course). P is 12- it's just not going to happen. As often happens in divided families, when one parent puts a foot down, the other one is the good guy, and the child will decide they might cut a sweeter deal at the other place. TRB took this and ran with it. I'm happy to say, it was a total waste of his money and time. My boys remain with me. The Judge did all but tell him he was a complete moron, and advised him that when decisions I make for the good of the boys are presented, he should certainly back me up. His words "Those boys need a father, not another best buddy".. P is fine, and in the weeks leading up to the court date, told both Me and RB that he really was ok with staying here. I took advantage of my courtroom time (and astronomical legal fees) to set a few more things straight. Child support was to remain as is- The Judge, however, noted there had not been an increase in 10 years, and increased it. RB may see the boys every other weekend, If they so choose,but he is not allowed to drive them anyplace in his car ( he recently bought a car and in 2 months has had 1 DUI and a speeding ticket). Health insurance is not optional- he will provide it or go to jail. I had, since he had ours cancelled, enrolled us in a plan, and now he is responsible for the premium, which will be deducted from his wages. I'm not really happy about any of this, with the exception of the custody issue. I really wasn't looking for more money or insurance, but I do derive some satisfaction in seeing the fucktard bite himself in the ass :)
Next on the agenda was my surgery. A few months back I discovered a lump on my breast. Going in for a simple lumpectomy turned out to be far more than I'd bargained for.there were several "suspicious" lumps that I'd not detected- I was advised to have a mastectomy. none of the biopsies were malignant, but the risk I guess is high. I did go for 2 more opinions and the other 2 Dr.s didn't feel it was necessary to treat them so agressively at this point. I will have to have more frequent follow up screenings, but presently I am lump-free and all other tests have been negative.
Both my boys graduated last month , P from Elementary school, and S from Middle school :) I was so very proud of them both- S recieved numerous awards, P made it through the school year going up 2 grades in each subject. That's remarkable for P, as he still struggles with ADD and Bipolar :) He's such a different child than he was a few years ago- he's really driven to succeed now, where before he just didn't care. We have our frequent power struggles, and they're even tougher because of is behavioral issues, but he's maturing, and learning to choose his battles, as am I :)
BF and I are doing surprisingly well- the counseling, I'm certain is the key, but the daughter and xwife have been treating him like a dog, so I think he's beginning to appreciate me a tad more. He's always, for the most part treated me quite well, but things were getting stale, and he had Zee-ro patience with the boys- that's improved tremendously!!The end of the month the boys and I will be going off to the beach for a week- B/F will stay behind, as he and his nephew have just started a major contracting job, but we'll be going away in September, so he's happy- he's not the best person to have around at the height of tourist season, anyway :) Can we say "people person??"
In even more positive news, I took 2 classes for the first summer session and kicked ass!! I might be getting the hang of this school thing after all- *note to self- re-read this last paragraph next semester when you're wanting to bail :)
That's all the news that's fit to print at the moment- I hope everyone is well- I've missed you!
Peace and Love to All ***
Mad
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